• The rock - The Gibraltar nature of this rock is a common starting point. This rock makes it clear that we can't continue in the current way that sleep is being done.
• The hard place - These are the mixed emotions of anxiety about change and the all too common "mommy guilt" that got us in this jam to begin with. Our natural aversion to change makes us thing change will be bad for our baby. Not so!
Your concerns and anxieties
Asking him to change - Change in the first 3 years of life is part of the experience. As far as change goes there is never an easier time to handle change than in the first 24 years of life. In fact throughout childhood and adolescence we eagerly seek it out. It is called novel experience. After that - not so much.
Him crying for help - You will be able to help him. By not fixing sleep for him or rescuing him he will learn a new skill. It truly is "on their own with our help".
Me not doing what he knows - You will show him a new way. The new way will be more functional. The new way will be for the betterment of the entire family including him. This is healthy. This is learning. He is all about learning. Mommies are all about healthy. We have to show our children what healthy is until they learn what healthy is. Once they learn they grow up and hopefully become adults who can make their own healthy choices. (Hey, all of us have downed an entire bag of Cheetos while watching the Twilight marathon on TBS.)
Is the stress too much for him? No.
It is too much for you? Maybe. That is where I come in. Helping moms with skills to ease stress and anxiety. That is my specialty. It works!
Will there be regret? Maybe. Many parents I work with regret they waited years for good sleep. If we look at the elements of regret there is sadness, disappointment, loss and grief. This means at some point we will experience regret. Considering how invested we are in our child's experience then eventually we are bound to feel some of those elements.